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cynthia on Jul 17th 2008 07:04 am

“Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love. ” ~ Rumi

“Let the beauty you seek be what you do.” ~ Rumi

Your Authentic Self - what it is and how do you reconnects with it?

The Authentic Self is the core of my practice as a life coach and of course my own spiritual practice….to live with passion and follow my bliss, listening to and expressing as best I can that Authentic Self. The Rumi quotes above represent the closest thing I have found to explain this mystic aspect of life.

Finding your Authentic Self is more than discovering your life purpose or passion or forgotten dreams. But that could be a good start.

Sarah Ban Breathnach (author of Simple Abundance) has written a very good book called Something More: Excavating Your Authentic Self in which she explores the process of digging into the soul for that elusive ’something else’. That sense that something is missing, that surely there is more to life, is an early clue that the Authentic Self wants to come out and play. During this process of exploration and ‘excavation’, one won’t necessarily change jobs or careers or spouses or homes, though any or all of those are possible.

What seems more important than finding a new job, new spouse or new house, is to learn to discover and uncover in small ways every day what being genuinely ‘you’ would be like. And then to begin to ‘be’ just that. To get on with your desired life rather than become resigned to something elusive out there in some distant future.

Every one of us has had that thought as some point…well, when the kids are grown or when I finally lose this weight or once I pay off these debts…and on it goes. For those that have experienced coaching you know that uncovering the authentic self is a ‘process’ and requires getting into action. You will want to try some new things and also allow your memories to bring up some forgotten joys to explore. And baby steps are ok, it IS a journey in the desired direction.

I’ll offer some suggestions to get you started, some questions for you - you can write a list or journal your answers.

I have found that there are two approaches to getting unstuck and as an individual you may resonate with one more than the other…

Suggestions - pick one or two below that seem pretty easy and then another 1 or 2 that bring up some resistance to work on!

Group 1: Moving away from being ’stuck’ or feeling you’ve lost something (authenticity)

1. What do I resent? What do I regret?

2. What have I been unwilling to change?

3. Where am I in denial? What have I been overlooking?

4. Where am I too comfortable?

5. Where have I denied myself?

6. Where do I stop short? Where am I holding back?

7. What decision have I been avoiding?

8. Where am I taking my foot off the gas?

9. What am I stepping over?

10.What am I settling for? What am I unwilling to risk?

Group 2: Moving toward authenticity, plotting a course of action

1. What am I most grateful for?

2. What makes me laugh? makes me smile?

3. What thrills me? What is fun?

4. How am I generous with myself?

5. What is fulfilling, what feels good?

6. How could I go softly into life? How can I have this be easy?

7. What can I give myself permission to do today?

8. How can I double my vitality? recharge my batteries?

9. What acknowledgment can I give myself today?

10 What awes me?

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Chapter 5 - Becoming Visionary

cynthia on Jul 10th 2008 07:30 pm

Excerpt from Living the Perfect Life:A Spiritual Inventory for Self-Mastery by Cynthia Morin

Chapter 5 - Becoming Visionary

So far in our exploration of the Perfect Life and Self Mastery, we have examined our values, our ability to make sound choices based on our values, and being congruent with actions, thoughts and deeds. And you have begun to look at the environments of your life to see where they support or distract you, what you want to expand or eliminate in your inner and outer surroundings.

In this chapter, we will look at what motivates and inspires us to live a great life. For me, it is the vision of my world that deepens my commitment to a full life and inspires me to give more of my self. So rather than examine our goals and life purpose, we will jump to what I call a higher level and explore being visionary, perhaps in a little different way that you might expect.

The search for a ‘life purpose’ or mission in life has been a stumbling block for many it seems. Some fortunate ones just seem to know what it is they are meant to do and be in life. For the rest of us, it is elusive, ever-changing or confusing, and we flounder around wondering why we can’t find ‘it’ or why it did not fulfill us as we thought.

The truth may be that your purpose or mission in life is simply the set of values you worked on. Love, joy, abundance, community, compassion – whatever were included in your top 5 may indicate a real sense of purpose that unfolds in whatever you involve yourself. (Your values list may change from time to time but there is typically one or two that will always appear on your top 10.) We are all aware that over the last few decades the ideal of a single career pursuit has turned into a series of careers, most people changing direction in their work pursuits 3-5 times over a life. Yet, you might notice that there is a thread: a value that threads through what you have chosen to do in terms of work or service to others.

Well, goals may still work for you. Goals are typically used to push you toward some final result in the future. The difficulty I find is that there is always a sense of lack involved – identification with things not being here yet, a lot of future thinking that takes over from being present and grateful for what is now. A vision on the other hand, will draw you more into what is already important now. It is not really about a future thinking change but about being inspired by what is already happening even in a small way. It is about potentiality.

And yes, the use of a life purpose can seem to be empowering, but it can also create a trap. You begin to identify so much with the purpose that without it you don’t know what to do or be. The visioning process is not about self-empowerment but rather about inspiration. To be inspired is to draw in, to breathe the fullness of what is. From that fullness we are invited to create, to breathe out new and expansive ideas and expressions. Vision is your ability to see a bigger picture in the world of potentiality and know that you are a part of something really great that is unfolding in the world.

You may be noticing that I have not directed you to write out any actual goals! I suggest that you forego (or postpone at least) writing out your goals (which may or may not serve to motivate you over the long haul). Nor will I ask you to write a profound life purpose statement (we can rely on your values list). Instead I am recommending that you look at your vision as inspiration for becoming all you can be.

How to be visionary?

A vision may seem to be about the future. Yet, it is more about the present—what is happening today. The best visions are indeed about the Now, otherwise they would be merely dreams or fantasies. To go about identifying your visions, you simply identify or recognize a current condition, trend or event that really captures your attention and then EXTRAPOLATE from it. If you have been noticing that society has started making progress in a certain area and you can determine (by facts or even intuition) that the forces behind the progress will likely continue, then you can easily see the vision of this progress continuing until it becomes universal or has reached completion in some way.

A vision that I have is that everyone can find ways to express their creative expressions (art, music, dance, writing, inventions, etc) and be valued (and rewarded) for their creativity. This is really so simple and obvious to me that it often seems like a given and I forget that it is a vision. But every time I discover a new fact or statistic about creativity in the workplace for example, or meet a person is who succeeding at their creative expression I am thrilled and inspired. Yes, it is happening, I say to myself and I am uplifted by it. It draws me into the vision of a better world for all and I become more expressive and more capable of assisting others with their creative dreams.

All my life I have been involved in some aspect of education, teaching, training, sharing knowledge and skills with others. Learning is a high value for me so I am drawn to explore new ideas and skills myself. But more important I have always had a vision about education. Though there is much to criticize about our organized educational systems, I still carry my vision and look for clues, new trends, and new accomplishments in the area of learning. Years ago I became fascinated about the computer, and later the world of the internet, primarily because I saw the trends pointing in the direction of new potentials for education and continuous learning accessible for all. Yes there is still much to criticize about computers and the internet! But I continue to be inspired by MY vision of what it can become and what I see positive about it now.

What do you see happening in our world today that excites you and brings a sense of potential? The world is a mess if we look at all that seems wrong but where do you see shifts happening that point in the direction of your vision? Can you spot trends toward a more peaceful world community, to more open dialogue between people, to better parenting models, to more enlightened health care for all? In what ways does the world around you reflect back to you the vision that you have for mankind?

One of my clients mentioned recently that she and her husband keep a gratitude journal and both write in on a regular basis. I suspect that this gratitude journal could easily be called a Vision Journal. The things that we are most grateful for are the things that support our vision of greatness, that support our values of life. If you would like to experiment—I am a big believer in journals of any form – you might try writing some entries in your existing journal or begin a new journal with the idea of acknowledging the perfection you see day to day. Write what you read, saw, heard, learned about that supports your vision.

-use this space to write your vision-
My Vision:

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Reconnecting with your Authentic Self

cynthia on Jul 10th 2008 07:06 pm

“Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love. ” ~ Rumi

“Let the beauty you seek be what you do.” ~ Rumi

Your Authentic Self - what it is and how do you reconnects with it?

The Authentic Self is the core of my practice as a life coach and of course my own spiritual practice….to live with passion and follow my bliss, listening to and expressing as best I can that Authentic Self. The Rumi quotes above represent the closest thing I have found to explain this mystic aspect of life.

Finding your Authentic Self is more than discovering your life purpose or passion or forgotten dreams. But that could be a good start.

Sarah Ban Breathnach (author of Simple Abundance) has written a very good book called Something More: Excavating Your Authentic Self in which she explores the process of digging into the soul for that elusive ’something else’. That sense that something is missing, that surely there is more to life, is an early clue that the Authentic Self wants to come out and play. During this process of exploration and ‘excavation’, one won’t necessarily change jobs or careers or spouses or homes, though any or all of those are possible.

What seems more important than finding a new job, new spouse or new house, is to learn to discover and uncover in small ways every day what being genuinely ‘you’ would be like. And then to begin to ‘be’ just that. To get on with your desired life rather than become resigned to something elusive out there in some distant future.

Every one of us has had that thought as some point…well, when the kids are grown or when I finally lose this weight or once I pay off these debts…and on it goes. For those that have experienced coaching you know that uncovering the authentic self is a ‘process’ and requires getting into action. You will want to try some new things and also allow your memories to bring up some forgotten joys to explore. And baby steps are ok, it IS a journey in the desired direction.

I’ll offer some suggestions to get you started, some questions for you - you can write a list or journal your answers.

I have found that there are two approaches to getting unstuck and as an individual you may resonate with one more than the other…

Suggestions - pick one or two below that seem pretty easy and then another 1 or 2 that bring up some resistance to work on!

Group 1: Moving away from being ’stuck’ or feeling you’ve lost something (authenticity)

1. What do I resent? What do I regret?

2. What have I been unwilling to change?

3. Where am I in denial? What have I been overlooking?

4. Where am I too comfortable?

5. Where have I denied myself?

6. Where do I stop short? Where am I holding back?

7. What decision have I been avoiding?

8. Where am I taking my foot off the gas?

9. What am I stepping over?

10.What am I settling for? What am I unwilling to risk?

Group 2: Moving toward authenticity, plotting a course of action

1. What am I most grateful for?

2. What makes me laugh? makes me smile?

3. What thrills me? What is fun?

4. How am I generous with myself?

5. What is fulfilling, what feels good?

6. How could I go softly into life? How can I have this be easy?

7. What can I give myself permission to do today?

8. How can I double my vitality? recharge my batteries?

9. What acknowledgment can I give myself today?

10 What awes me?

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Living With Passion

cynthia on Jul 10th 2008 04:55 pm

What is living with passion? Interesting, isn’t it, how life’s really big questions always lead to more questions? What is living anyway? What is passion? Forget dictionary meanings, what does it mean to you personally?

For me, passion is a deep inner-driven expression that makes me feel alive. The expression is important because unexpressed, the passion becomes stifled and so submerged that it becomes more a pain, a throbbing without release. Resulting in a withering into a depressed type of nostalgia – a remembrance of more passionate times rather than an expression of the passion of the moment.

So how to get in touch with the passion of life and express it through one’s personal and unique qualities? Again, you need to go deeper into the meaning and find the essence of passion. One way is through metaphors. My favorite is the four elements – fire, air, water and earth.

The fire element naturally has a sense of passion for most people. What lights your fire? What makes you glow like the brilliant sun? How do you fan the subtle embers of your inner self to awaken that flame of passion? Where in your life are you denying or avoiding the fire of passion for fear of being scorched?

The other elements also hold a potential for this power and energy we describe as passion. You may be an ‘air’ person. So think of the power of the winds in the trees, subtly softening and moving everything it touches, or the power of tornados and hurricane winds sweeping away all before it. A ‘water’ person can image the powerful waves of the ocean or the invigorating drenching from a sudden downpour of rain and the surge of swollen streams. How is this like the passion within? An earth-based person can perhaps connect with exploding volcanic eruptions and the flow of lava – now there’s an image of passion! – or more subtly, the erupting growth from a bulbs first emergence from the ground in spring.

Living with passion begins with being awakened to the miracles around you and within you — next, more on how this translates into the real world of work, family and mundane daily activities.

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Some positive buzz

cynthia on May 18th 2007 07:26 am

I just got my hands on the new Spirit of Eureka publication yesterday and wanted to tell you that I think it looks great! You did a fantastic job on my ad as well. I have made copies available in my studio for students and those that have already read it had rave reviews. Just thought you would like to hear some positive buzz!
Thanks again for doing a great job on Spirit of Eureka,
Namaste, Meg

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lovely publishing - thanks

cynthia on May 7th 2007 12:06 pm

Was just out, got a copy of Spirit of Eureka magazine and it is a lovely publishing. Cynthia and Tom, you did a great job. Thanks from all of us for the idea and such a wonderful piece.

Carol Brown

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What is soul coaching?

cynthia on Nov 12th 2006 05:37 pm

Soul Coaching is looking into the mirror of Life to discover who you really are at this moment in time. It is not about examining your past in order to fix problems (i.e. therapy) nor is it simply setting goals to be attained somewhere in the future. Coaching is about learning to be comfortable living in this human form, learning to be friends with the many parts and aspects of yourself including the many traits of personality, ego, Essence or Spirit.

The coaching relationship does not set out to create something from nothing – but you will find that seemingly new things occur in your life, transforming perhaps all aspects of your life. In truth, your life IS ever changing and evolving and if you slow down and take a look at it under the microscope of the coaching sessions you will be amazed at what you uncover. Listening to your inner knowing, your true heart’s desires, will allow you to act with certainty at every twist and turn of life’s path.

All your dreams and desires already exist in the state of potentiality—desires for prosperity, wholeness, loving relationships, life purpose and fulfillment, compassionate service to others—they are either manifesting in your life right under your somewhat narrow gaze or they exist in the darkened rooms of your soul’s inner life, awaiting you to turn on the light of awareness and bring them into view.

There is no good or bad, right or wrong. All that is beautiful and peaceful and joyous is right here before you, not waiting off somewhere in a distant time or place. Joy – Love - Fulfillment these are not things one accomplishes by ‘good’ planning or ‘good’ work nor things that come as a reward for cleaning up your ‘bad’ past. They are ways of Being–Now, Here. The state of Being that you hunger for is only covered over temporarily by a mind (ego) that wants to be in control. Meanwhile your heart aches for freedom. Choose your heart’s message and melt away the resistances of mind. Choose to uncover Joy, Freedom, Love, Forgiveness, Peace, Gratitude – the things that remind you of your Power, your Source, your Beauty, your Essence.

Though our coaching conversations may cover many things: situations, expectations, plans and actions, the coaching relationship exists at a level much deeper than these apparent topics. As our hearts lock in on a synchronous note or vibration, you will find yourself remembering who you really are and why you are here. Decisions and choices are not difficult then but appear obvious and natural. Action steps unfold spontaneously and intuitively. Part of my job will be to hold you accountable for the planned actions - you will let me know how you like to be held accountable. Ready to begin again on the path of wholeness? Call me (479-244-6585) and we can talk about what you want from coaching.

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